There’s recently been a movement, let by Alain Du Botton, Vincent Deary and others, to storm the dingy food court that is the self-help genre and class the place up with tablecloths and silverware. There is much misspoken/misunderstood and all parties can deal with frustration and confusion as a result. 5,0 sur 5 étoiles A must-read. Nonviolent Communication is padded with elaborations and quizzes and testimonials, but the whole thing, Rosenberg more or less acknowledges, could without much loss be edited down from 220 pages to 1. That’s the body of work, the material to be mastered. About 2/3rds of the content of the book is dedicated to the how's of the communication, so I think its easy to see why folks feel this way and to then dismiss it as a specialized form of talking. Step one: Simply say, without judgment, what someone is doing that you like or dislike. Amazon.in - Buy Nonviolent Communication: Create Your Life, Your Relationships, and Your World in Harmony with Your Values book online at best prices in India on Amazon.in. Whether conversing with friends, family, spouses, teachers, bosses or employees, the methods which we’ve learned to communicate often fail us. I highly recommend this life-changing book. I am still wrapping my head around the practice-- very difficult to break old habits-- but the few times over the last two days I've tried this, honest, constructive information burst out immediately. Commenté au Royaume-Uni le 12 janvier 2017. It is defiantly itself, beyond gussying. Also some questionable psychotheraputic recommendations, about sharing personal feelings during sessions and not diagnosing because diagnosing is a form of judgement. It could create less of a power differential and perhaps be more healing in its inclusivity and open acknowledgement of all individuals in the room. That’s the best communication book I have ever … 10 personnes ont trouvé cela utile. While I do not know the specifics of your question, this book is generally reprinted with the same text, down to the inclusion of Dr. Rosenberg's ques. Reinforcing the legitimacy, to say nothing of the primacy, of such desires can go quite a way toward reifying them in the minds of their holders, and thence to create an increased sense of entitlement. Highly recommend - best book I ever read in my life! I think I might have gained 10 emotional IQ points just from reading it--this week whenever I interact with people I keep thinking about what they must be feeling and what need they were trying to express when they said that thing. Some really great stuff to take with a hunk of salt. The only problem with this book is, it makes you wish every human being alive had read it! The Colfax Massacre Must Not Be Forgotten, A different biological clock: Why some women care more about buying a home than having a baby. “A revolutionary way of looking at language. And this is where the true mortification in reading Nonviolent Communication, the humbling that goes well beyond being seen with a book that could have been written by Ned Flanders, rears its head. While many of the techniques presented in this slim volume are entirely worthwhile and of great value in making oneself clear and defusing potentially tense communications, I still disagree with some of the author's fundamental categorization of "needs." —JOE VITALE, Spiritual Marketing, The Power of Outrageous Marketing. Highly recommend it for people of all ages. The basic idea will be familiar to anyone who has had a little therapy or knows a therapist: you talk about your feelings, not what the other person is doing wrong. It may require a moment of social discomfort, as you think through how to translate the tangle of your inner life into Rosenberg-ese, and then a more profound sort of discomfort once you realize how much better this works than your old, timeworn methods. $ 22.95 Being Genuine: Stop Being Nice, Start Being Real. Refresh and try again. 1. You feel an amorphous glumness after a phone call with a friend and realize that you’re disappointed because of your need for intimacy. However, I found it difficult to put the ideas into practice. Marshall B. Rosenberg, PhD (1934-2015) founded and was for many years the Director of Educational Services for the Center for Nonviolent Communication, an international peacemaking organization. This book should be on the reading list in all schools. :). Try it out and commit to a healther life While there are ideas that can be adapted to use in this book that make it worth reading, it makes a few claims that could be problematic. It will teach you how to spot the differences between evaluations and observations, feelings and thoughts, needs and strategies, and requests and demands - most of which people confuse unconsciously due to very old habit patterns of the mind. It's such an excellent guide to communicating, that I wish I had been taught this stuff in Kindergarten, and again in middle school and high school. The most useful book I’ve ever read — the one I would hand to a newly landed alien, if he had room for only one book in his alien-pouch — happens also to be the most mortifying. Unfortunately, for centuries our culture has taught us to think and speak in ways that can actually perpetuate conflict, internal pain and even violence. Puddle Dancer. ( I feel anxious…) Then you’d say what need of yours is leading to this feeling of anxiety. 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